The wish to become a parent is very strong amongst couples who are facing infertility. Sometimes it can even feel overwhelming. If you learn that you cannot have a child of your own, you might assume your dream of becoming a parent is over. This couldn’t be further from the truth. The reality is, there are options that you can pursue which will help you become a parent. The options discussed in this blog are adoption and surrogacy.
The decision between adoption and surrogacy is an ongoing debate. There is no right or wrong answer; only what suits you best! At Rite Options, we help couples who are facing infertility to consider surrogacy.
Here are some reasons why you and many other like you may prefer surrogacy over adoption:
For many couples, having a child that is biologically connected to one or both parents is important. Some feel that this helps them form better bonds.
Healthy Prenatal Care
In choosing surrogacy, the prenatal health of the surrogate mother is regularly monitored. She is thoroughly screened to ensure that she can carry and deliver a healthy baby. Your surrogacy fees will cover her healthcare expenses. Every facet of the baby’s gestational life will be under observation, ensuring that the future health of the child will not be affected.
You get to choose the Surrogate Mother
Surrogacy gives would-be parents more control over who will deliver their baby, compared to adoption. In surrogacy, you are assigned a case coordinator who is fully versed in your requirements. He or she will provide you with matches which you can either accept or reject.
You can actively participate in the Pregnancy
When you commence the surrogacy process, you become an active participant in the baby’s life from the first day. You have the opportunity to be present at all medical appointments alongside the surrogate mother. You will also have the chance see your baby develop into a healthy, foetus. This will enable you to bond with your unborn child.
In the surrogacy process, yourself and the surrogate enter into a binding contract from the start. There are no surprises in terms of parental rights. This means your claim to parenthood will never be challenged.
Adoption Procedures are Uncertain and Lengthy
The entire adoption procedure can take several years, but the end doesn’t always result in a successful outcome. Depends on the agency you choose, you may have to be put on a waiting list. This can be emotionally traumatizing for many couples.
Not Allowed to Adopt
Certain laws in some countries do not allow lesbian and gay couples to adopt. This is not only surprising but unfair as well. With some couples, a spouse may have a history of a particular medical condition which may not be conducive for adoption. Therefore, in both cases, pursuing surrogacy is the best option.
The question of adoption versus surrogacy is a personal one. There are drawback and benefits to both routes. If you are unsure about which option suits you best, contact us at Rite Options.